Some people are very low in terms of consciousness. It only takes meeting their gaze or exchanging a few words with them to realize it. It’s as if a lightning bolt strikes us, leaving us feeling demagnetized afterward.
Pay Attention to Phenomena Similar to How a Capacitor Works
A capacitor is an electrical component that works as follows: it accumulates charge at one pole until it suddenly discharges to its opposite pole. Toxic people can create a similar phenomenon. Imagine you take care of your energy by maintaining good health habits: you pray, sleep well, exercise, and try to show kindness toward others. In short, your energy is relatively high. Now, consider another person who has the exact opposite habits and whose energy is therefore low. When a significant differential occurs, a discharge of equal magnitude can manifest: you transfer a certain amount of energy to the other person without even intending to.
Learning to Spot Toxic People
While it’s difficult to completely avoid toxic people, you can learn to identify them in advance to avoid being drained by their energy. There are warning signs that help recognize them. First, a simple way is to assess how you feel in their presence. If they are toxic to you, it’s not uncommon to feel discomfort or even unease. This sensation may be subtle, but it’s often very real. Don’t ignore what you feel—observe it and try to make sense of it.
It’s also worth noting that we are all, at some point, someone else’s toxic person, as it depends on the scale of consciousness. For Buddha, the entire world is populated with relatively toxic beings; but as an enlightened person, he developed ways to remain unaffected by this differential. Being affected by others’ toxicity is also a sign that we haven’t yet achieved enlightenment.
Spend Time Alone If You Can’t Be with the Right People
Another thing to do is to reconnect with your own energy. If you want to better understand your personal energy, you need to accept spending more time with yourself. When you spend too much time with others, you scatter your energy and tend to lose touch with yourself energetically. Spending time alone helps you calibrate others’ energy and, therefore, identify toxic people.
Learning to Be Generous Too
The theory is that we recharge through God and discharge through people. If you’re low on energy, it’s not necessarily just because you’re around toxic people, but also because you haven’t adopted good spiritual habits. If you feel inner fatigue, consider that you may have neglected practices like prayer, fasting, or meditation.
The Art of Projecting Love onto the Past to Reconnect with It
How do the shins of a Thai boxer strengthen? Through microfractures caused by striking pads or punching bags. It’s through hardship that a boxer grows stronger. Similarly, one might ask: how do we become better human beings? Through the love we project into the cracks of existence.
This process starts retrospectively before it can be fully lived in the present moment. If someone has hurt you, find a way to learn a lesson from that experience and, if possible, project love. Loving in hindsight allows you to “mend” your past and become stronger, as it is through love that humans fulfill themselves. Someone who fails at this will miss out on realizing their full potential.
Memories Need to Be Imbued with Love
Why do we tend to feel nostalgic for our childhood, despite the hardships we may have faced? Probably because it’s the period most likely to have been imbued with love retrospectively, as it’s the oldest part of our lives. This shows that the sooner we adopt a loving relationship with our past, the more we’ll be able to live happily, even if our history wasn’t always happy to begin with.
Cultivating Emotions Related to Love
If the idea of love feels distant, it likely means you need to approach it gradually. Love is a level of consciousness. If you live in hatred or shame, it’s normal for this notion to seem unattainable in daily life. The key is to climb the scale of consciousness step by step and live more awakened over time.
In this regard, love is not, according to the author of the “scale of consciousness” concept (David R. Hawkins), the highest emotion: beyond it lie joy, peace, and enlightenment. Maintaining a healthy relationship with people we consider toxic involves showing them the path to a state of consciousness just above theirs (not too far, or they won’t understand). Thus, someone living in fear may not grasp love but could be more inspired by someone embodying desire or courage.
Learning to Love Your Past
If love isn’t always present in our memories, we can still bring it forth indirectly. Gratitude, for example, is a key emotion for reconnecting positively with your history. This mindset applies not only to the past but also to the present: if you live each moment in love, you won’t need to relive it twice.
